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The truth is,

Yesterday I posted the first episode of my new Youtube series, Life Talks with Mia.

First off, thank you so much for watching! I’ve always felt super passionate about these kinds of things and it’s really cool to me that you took 10 minutes (hopefully) out of your day to watch this. I’m thinking this will be one of the longer Life Talks, it won’t always be so long – there was just a lot to cover. So thank you again!

Now bear with me.

Second.

Contrary to popular opinion,

This was actually terrifying for me. Haha.

As every one else does, I have thoughts. Opinions.

But I have never been one to invest in conversations about things like this the way I know I should. I’ll say a PART of what I feel, but I know I don’t address the issue in a way that can make a difference.

Why, as humans, are we all so scared to share what we think?

I don’t know how you feel about it, but to me,

uh,

it’s terrifying.

It’s so easy for the other person to judge you. Think differently about you. Disagree. Attack you.

I was scared because I could be wrong. I could sound completely stupid.

But there’s no more of that.

I thought it was about time to speak up.

The truth is: YES,

Some people will judge you. Some people will think differently about you. Some people will disagree and will attack you.

Yes, I will be wrong sometimes. Yes, I will also sound like a complete idiot occasionally.

Or more than occasionally.

But why should that stop you?

By attempting to challenge the way you and others think, listening and considering the opinions of others, risking looking stupid,

you are doing more for yourself than you have ever done before.

You are learning.

So I’m in this super super cool class this semester called GHUM: Great Works. The topic of the class is actually “Writing the Self.”Β We have the most incredible readings.

I’ll be reading, and then I’ll turn to my roommate and be like OH MY GOSH YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO THIS.

There were three essays we read within the first two weeks that changed my perspective on everything. This is basically what I got from them:

Be a daredevil.

Speak up.

Some people, and many more than you think, will genuiunely want to hear what you have to say.

By some small chance, hey, they might even agree.

By some small chance, they may not.

If they don’t agree, maybe they will change their mind.

If they don’t change their mind, at least they’ll have something think about it,

and you’ve done your job.

Then we received this first assignment, and I thought:

What a better time and way to start what I’ve been trying (but hesitating) to do for so long?

For the longest time I thought “living” or “being adventurous” was walking a new way across campus.

Well, more or less.

Getting in the car with your friends at midnight and driving around town. Trying a new restaurant. Or maybe just a new flavor latte at Starbucks.

That’s all great, really.

But truly living and truly being adventurous is being scared,

but taking that leap anyways.

SPEAK UP.

Don’t argue to be right. Argue to make others think.

Be respectful.

Be open to others.

Be honest.

But most importantly, be kind.

You and me both have the coolest super power in the world.

The power to speak up.

And our generation has got to learn to embrace it, not run from it.

This series is going to be completely uncensored.

No holding back.

I’m going to be totally vulnerable and completely honest.

So go easy on me, alright? πŸ˜‰

Body Image is only the beginning.

I’m going to talk about things that hurt, that are awkward, that are wonderful, that are scary, that are alarming, that are inspiring. I will talk about the good, the bad, the ugly, things I hate, things I love, things that personally terrify me to talk about or say out loud.

I am telling you now that I have absolutely no intention – now, or in the future – of being offensive. Sometimes we have to dig deep to get to the good stuff.

I want this to be a discussion. I encourage and would LOVE if you left a comment and told me your opinion.

Well, not of me, of course.

But the topic.

How do you feel? What do you believe? What do you think? What have you learned? What have you experienced that relates?

I want you to exercise speaking your mind and not just having an opinion,

but OWNING your opinion.

I may look back at this video and my future Life Talks in 50 years. Or 5.

Most likely tomorrow.

And regret it all.

I may have a completely different view in 10 years, 1 year, or in 1 week.

We change, it’s natural.

But these are just my thoughts for now, and this is what I think.

I’m just here to shed some light on human experience.

And thennnn every other (other) week you can watch me have fun and be goofy and be the young adult that I am. Lolz.

The truth is, I’m a 19 year old girl who knows nothing. But I may have a little something to offer the world.

I can’t wait to go on this journey with you guys. I hope you decide to do the same.

Stay classy loves πŸ™‚

Yours truly,

Mia.

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17 thoughts on “The truth is,

  1. Perfect. Thanks for sharing, Mia! I love when I read things people write and jump out of my seat like “She said that PERFECTLY! It’s like she’s reading my mind!” Again, you da best. This is awesome! Loving your life-talks; definitely challenging people to think, which is the goal. And you succeed so hard !

  2. Sarah says:

    I want to thank you for addressing this topic. And like you’ve said, it’s already been done, but I haven’t seen it done by a girl that’s experienced it in some form and has felt the need to empower others.

    I’ve been struggling with body image for quite some time now, and it’s taken years to reframe my insecurities into strengths. For example, thinking of it as ‘I eat well and work out to be happy and healthy,’ and NOT ‘I want to look like the girl in the centerfold.’ But sometimes, those insecurities resurface and it can be pretty difficult to shake them off. It can also be really embarrassing to talk about with friends and family, especially when they don’t see or understand what you’re feeling.
    My battle with body image has somewhat guided my life. I am now a doctoral student studying clinical psychology, and I believe I have made it here because of what I went through. Not only have I experienced a tremendous amount of shame for my body (which in retrospect, shows how blinding this all can be, considering I was very healthy and looked the way I should have), but it also made me want to learn from it and better understand it so that I can help others.

    Bottom line is, great video. It’s awesome having real girls empower other girls. We all know that these problems are not going away anytime soon (or ever). It’s like Pandora’s box. The best thing for us, ladies, to do is to educate each other, laugh more often, and learn to love ourselves.
    I look forward to watching your other videos.

    -Sarah

    • No problem at all. I think it needed to be said.

      Good for you!!! That makes me so happy. That’s amazing that you were able to reframe your insecurities into strengths, and realize it’s a process. Some days are going to be good, some will be bad. I’m so overjoyed that you’re moving along on your journey! As long as you keep moving, you know? And congratulations on being a doctoral student and psychologist in the work. YOU WERK GIRL.

      YOU’RE FLAWLESS.
      Thank you so much for taking your time to write this.
      I look forward to hopefully seeing some more thoughts and comments from you as well.

      I love that! “Educate each other, laugh more often, and learn to love ourselves.” You’re genius.
      Keep going girl!

      Yours Truly,
      Mia

  3. Javairia says:

    I think it’s really cool that you are doing this and really sharing what you think. This takes communication to an awesomely “wholesome” level lol so full support eyes ears and yeah XD

    About body image now. Yes thank you! I do agree the media is annoying about that and also the fact that we are feeding it. Personally I got sick of the media a while ago , they could be doing much more awesome, productive, inspiring headlines than talking about how much weight an actress or actor put on and in some perhaps most cases being plain mean. (And ugly sometimes)

    To put all the gazillion thoughts in my head into one sentence it would be that stop, speak up, and be a part of the solution all in the folds of respect and genuine care.

    Body image should be about being healthy like you said and not about anything else. The other aspect is dressing modestly. I’ll see guys and girls all trying to show off their body (not all people but those who do) and then come the commentaries. Good God. Sometimes it feels like people have just lost their darn senses. There are those people who be mean for some reason whether it’s understandable or not BUT if the people they were targeting weren’t dressing in a revealing way then that already solves much of the problem because people can’t really see you like that.

    Now this isn’t changing because of society’s views etc, I actually think it’s reverse.
    Today I’ll go online and just look around and I’ll see both boys and girls revealing themselves although truth be spoken I see a lot more girls than boys. The concept that I find bizarre is that media calls it freedom and people accept it. What freedom is there in revealing ourselves and then the pressure of looking good by dressing like this, showing that part of your body, and then walk like this. I’d associate that with torture not freedom. On top of that girls will start being called sluts etc yet at the same time that’s what I see the media encouraging.
    It’s really disturbing seeing some of the events going on out there and the media is just getting away with it and people are so chill. This stuff is going down all the way to our 5 year olds. My niece who is only 7 actually told me (after I asked her why she’s not eating much) a few weeks ago that she doesn’t want to eat much because she doesn’t want to be fat and she actually thought she was fat when she’s simply a healthy growing child. That made me mad (not at her). That’s dangerous for a very young growing child to feel. If it gets deep into kids eating disorders, malnutrition, overall health and mental wellbeing is at risk.

    I’m seeing 10 year olds younger and older twerking and posting videos on YouTube …. what?

    Stuff escalates because we let it slide.

    Not saying there is no positives out there, I see some people saying hey no that’s not right or you shouldn’t be doing that because of so and so, but I think we need to really take a step further and put a foot down and just be like no what do you think you’re doing? We need to consider what those young eyes are looking at because not all of them can distinguish what’s alright and what’s not more so if that’s what they see around them part of that being on TV. A lot of people have TVs , it’s around us and in a lot of cases it’s setting social standards because we’re not thinking.

    Again it’s us. We have to wake up especially since there are a lot more deeper issues here.

    Poof so that’s a piece of my mind on the table for you ^^

    • First off, thank you SO much for taking the time to write this. I loved every second of it.

      About being revealing,
      YAS.
      This topic is always a tough one, because I feel like both men and women should be able to do what they want with their bodies. But WHY do you have to reveal yourself? Is anything left to be a secret anymore? I like what you pointed out- the media calls it freedom and people accept it. That’s crazy. I never thought about it that way.

      About your niece – that’s terrifying. My heart breaks for her. It’s affecting people so young now, and it breaks my heart. Like you said, if we speak up maybe we can make a difference! I think we can πŸ™‚

      EXACTLY. we have to stop letting it slide! We do need to put our foots down.

      Like I said – the Media puts a lot of bad stuff out there. But we recycle it. Those videos being posted to YouTube, the posts on Facebook, etc. We can’t stop everything. But it starts with parents, and other role models (but especially parents), telling their kids – “Hey, not everything you see is okay. That’s not right. That’s not real.)

      I’m really happy you shared this with me. Thank you SO much.

      When I do my future Life Talk about Sex and Sexualization in the Media, do you mind if I give you a shout-out? I really like some of what you just said!

      Thanks again πŸ™‚

      Yours Truly,
      Mia

    • Javairia says:

      hey sorry about the SUPER SUPER late response, i wouldn’t mind at all , can’t wait to watch more of your vids!

    • Tony! It’s so good to hear from you!

      Thank you so much, and yes I do! Good grief, I got very lucky. So blessed.

      Hopefully I’ll see you soon. Hope you’re loving life!

      -Mia

  4. I’m not sure how I came across this. A friend posted it on Facebook and someone else shared it, but THANK YOU. Your words are true and they have meaning and value, and they challenge the norm. I believe in fighting indifference and speaking about the things that really mean something in life, no matter how inadequate we feel about doing so. It’s the reason I write music and I know there are always moments when you will doubt yourself, or when it seems like what your saying is going unnoticed but never stop. Always speak. The world needs to hear it. Even when they don’t think so.

    Random soapbox moment over.

    -Isaac

    • Yay! Well I’m so glad you did.

      I’m so happy someone is with me on this, and understands. That’s so great about your music. Keep writing! And if you ever put some of it out, let me know! I would love to hear it.

      Have a great day Isaac!

      Yours Truly,
      Mia

  5. Charisse L. Williams says:

    Mia, you are simply amazing. This is a dialogue that so many people need to engage, both young and old. Keep on doing what you do. Be the voice for those that think these things but never have the courage to speak up.

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