8 Things I’ve Already Learned from 2014.

Hi. True Story.

8 things I have already learned from the New Year.

1. Don’t go with your gut instinct. See, there are plain old gut instincts when you know something isn’t right. Follow those. But when you’re choosing between two things- never go with your gut. Ever. Your heart is the way to go. Always. Getting what your heart truly desires is always right. A 50/50 chance based on your gut is not.

2. There is a difference between an obligation and a promise. Learn this difference. Promises are mandatory. Obligations are not. Stop trying to please everyone. You’re going to end up empty-handed.

3. Stand up for yourself. If you don’t, those words will linger in you for a long time afterwards. And it’s not settling.

4. Always chose the people you truly love over everything. Not the ones you’re holding on to because you think you have to. Chose the ones you laugh and smile with and find yourself beaming and glowing when you’re with them. You just pictured them, right? Choose them. Walking on eggshells gets old. Being loved, being cared for, and being happy does not.

5. Sometimes everything won’t be perfect. Things happen. Move on.

6. Red underwear isn’t good luck.

7. The good news is, just as unexpectedly bad as this moment or night or day was for you, there are just as many unexpectedly good moments and nights and days to come. Maybe even more so.

8. Try your best to stick with these rules.

The moral of the story is to be true to yourself and what you want and believe. Do what you want to do, dammit. It’s your life. You don’t always have to do what people expect of you, and that doesn’t make you a bad person. Chances are, in the end, they won’t care. They don’t have to live with it, and you do. Sometimes you have to be selfish, or you’ll never get what you want. And that’s okay.

Learn how to be selfish. But always be kind, be genuine, and be pure.

Happy New Year. Hope it’s a good one.

Yours truly, Mia. xo